Sacred Sexuality: How the Spiritual and Sexual are Connected.

Some of you who know me more intimately also know that I am certified as a yoga instructor and holistic health practitioner specializing in both physiological and energetic modalities. For some time, I have been exploring what it means to connect the sexual and spiritual bodies through the practice of kundalini, which is mindful and sensual movement, usually through ecstatic dance or asana (yogic postures), that is said to merge the ethereal body with the physical one on its path to ascension/enlightenment. This energetic flow occurs within the spine, and like a snake, spirals its way up through the chakras, or energy points, within the auric field (energy surrounding the body).

Our spirituality is intrinsically linked to our sexuality. This interconnection is vital to healthy energetic flow throughout the body and in moving and releasing any blockages that have occurred due to emotional, environmental, etheric, and physiological responses of the body to what it may be exposed to over time. These blockages, if left unresolved or stagnant, can lead to dis-ease in the body and manifest as autoimmune conditions, illness, or other ailments. Inga Muscio, author of CUNT (and my personal bible) explains the concept of moving this energy by way of climax:

I was sitting at the beach, thinking and watching the waves. The revelation assailed me quite suddenly, as revelations are wont to do: each wave is an orgasm. Sometimes they’re big. Sometimes they’re small. Sometimes they tear faces of cliff from the earth’s surface. If the ocean did not have waves, it would be a big, salty lake. A lake is a still pool of water. Personally, I don’t venture into water that doesn’t move. Bored, malevolent monsters live in bodies of water that do not move. When women function like the ocean, we live happy, healthy lives. Holding on to stuff that does not serve us in our present situation creates actual, physical blockages within our bodies. Bored, malevolent monsters. Which, on the individual level, manifest in bitterness, stifled creativity, sexual perversion, and unwillingness to trust, love, and/or touch. Collectively — when an entire society is sexually repressed — phenomena such as war, rape, racism, greed, and wholesale shitty behavior are considered acceptable.

In other words, have more orgasms. Moving this stagnant energy can be found within the act of sexual pleasure and release. Whether it’s through self or partnered play, there exists a euphoric and spiritually enlightening response to engaging in acts purely done out of sexual gratification. Whether they be dainty ones, explosive ones, everything in between, with or without a partner, and with or without toys or assistance — get funky with your sexy self.

But the key to an epic release is to not focus on the actual orgasm. Too often, we’re concerned with reaching climax, that the lead up and process of getting there, is lost. What if we were to just pay attention to what feels good, drinking in the ecstasy of the moment, allowing ourselves to become encompassed with the waves of pleasure and surrendering to the tides? In this sense, we begin to embody the art of tantra, which is a sensual practice that recycles orgasmic energies throughout the body to create a pleasure-filled full body experience wherein complete release is not the goal. Think of “edging” or when you’re so close to cumming but keep that feeling just before you explode. Now imagine riding that again and again for hours upon hours…I tell ya. It’s a beautiful thing.

So when we begin to work through these sexual energies, allowing them to move freely throughout the body, there no longer exists a “pent-up” or frustrated feeling that can have the potential of affecting our health. Rather, we are flowing with this energy, creating space for things like creativity, motivation, drive, zest for life, joy, happiness, and bliss.

Some great resources for starting your sexual and spiritual journey are:

“Viva La Vagina” sexuality courses and crystal wands by Courtney Davistheempoweredwoman.ca

Sex and sexuality courses by Beducatedbeducated.com

With love,

B.

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